This is a post where I'm not going to tell you how or what to think...I'm not going to tell you I myself think a certain way...but I'm going to present a possibility. Maybe it will inspire someone (it hasn't inspired me yet!). I hope it does, because I see in it the potential to really change someone's life.
A recently published article indicates that parents spend so much time and energy getting their kids ready for school in the mornings that it's equivalent to an extra full day of work each week. (I just realized the recently published article is based on a not-so-recently-published article, but that's ok, it's still true.) For any parent who's experienced this situation for themselves, this is another one of those "They really needed to do a study on that?!?" issues. It's a rare family where the parent doesn't have to nag one or more of their children multiple times to get up or do any of the mundane tasks that have to get done each morning, or in the case of younger kids, to physically do it for them. It's a LOT of WORK! And it can be stressful and exhausting! And think about all those people who don't have children at home, who can just get up, take their sweet time (or sleep in, if they'd rather) and just take care of themselves, before leaving the house at the time that they actually want to!
Well, what about this idea: all the time you are spending on getting your kids ready in the morning...is time you're spending with your kids! Granted, it's probably not the way you would choose to spend quality time with them. But each interaction with them is an opportunity to add to your relationship with them. Even if it goes pretty terribly most mornings, that's still time YOU spent with them. Subtract all the time, equivalent to a FULL work day per week, that you spend with them each morning, and you're subtracting hundreds of interactions between you and them. When time management experts tell you to outsource tasks that could be done by just anyone (could be cleaning your house, doing your taxes, whatever) so that you have more time to do the things that only you can do, one of the things only you can do is have a parent-child relationship with your kids. (Yes, of course, I would recommend also spending real quality time with them when you can, not just rushing around in the mornings.)
Look...yes, there could be such a thing as such a terrible interaction between a parent and child that the relationship would genuinely be better off deleting those interactions altogether. If that's what's happening in your house in the mornings, you may want to talk to a professional about it. But the vast majority of these mornings for most families will be merely a low level of stressful and exhausting. And if we remember that even these interactions are contributing to a relationship between us and our children, maybe even that ordinary level of stress won't be so bad.